Hi All!
April fools! If you thought my year-long blog was over!
I’m so sorry! I had several technical mishaps and some personal issues that got in the way of working on my blog. It was mainly my technology issues. I have 2 computers. One primary and one for back up and both died at the same time! Plus, I took a week-long working holiday to Vietnam! Another experiment for helping you, my readers and clients deal with being alone without being lonely.
One of the things that I was reminded of with my technology set backs was how being on your own means being self-sufficient. For many individuals this is really scary. Thoughts of being independent and self-sufficient isn’t something many people believe that they can be.
Is this true for you? Do you have the belief that you need someone to take care of you? Be there for you? Do you doubt your own ability to handle life’s dilemmas and problems? Do you struggle to recognize when you solve your own problems?
One of the biggest fallacies is to believe that you need someone to take care of you. Being on your own can present challenges, but also opportunities for growth. You must learn how to fix your own computer or turn it into a money problem to hire other people to fix it. Have you ever gotten so sick and don’t have any one to call? You just need to find a doctor to do a house call (they exist in Singapore).
To truly be happy one needs to build the self confidence and experience of taking care of one’s self. Taking care of one’s self doesn’t always mean you can do it yourself, but rather that you can find a solution. That is resiliency. The more you start tackling your own issues the better you feel about yourself. The more you do that, the more you realize you are just fine on your own.
If you want to be in a healthy relationship, it starts with taking care of yourself. So today, make a list of all the times you solved your own problems. Go ahead. Write it down? Did you handle a tax issue? Did you figure out how to fix your computer? Maybe you were sick and had find a doctor? How did you handle your move to Singapore? There are probably lots of times you solved your own problems. The more you acknowledge all the times, the more confident you’ll be.
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