Happy Wednesday. It’s the middle of the week.
Many people who are single like to go out on a Wednesday or Thursday for a night of drinking and hopes to meet someone. But often, other than spending a lot of money on way too much alcohol, the night is a bust and can leave a person feeling even more lonely.
Going out about can have its merits. But, if you are going out with the intention to meet someone, the let down can be even greater. Why? Well, the buildup and anticipation to meet someone, heightens the loss when it doesn’t happen. Think about how you may have met someone when you had no plans. The lack of expectation, plan or hope makes the night light an easy. But, when you are going out hoping to meet someone, it puts more pressure on the evening. It makes the evening less fun.
One thing to consider is how to spend an evening that will build upon itself by giving you more opportunities for social interactions. Occasionally you may want to try developing a new activity to do that is exploration of self. The best way to meet people, romantic or platonic is meet them doing things you love. If you feel like you don’t have many hobbies or interests, this is a great time to start now.
Why not plan and make a dinner? You can make this social. You can invite people over for appetizers or a simple meal. The planning and shopping can be opportunities to have small chats and conversations with people in the store. The idea is to put your phone down and meet people. I’m not talking about turning the grocery store into the “new bar” but rather, just making small contact. Plus researching and cooking a meal can be a lot of fun. The best part is you get to eat your creation.
Another option is to start social dancing. There are many organizations that are offering beginner lesson in salsa, bachata and kizomba. These social dances are amazing way to learn a skill, have fun and be introduced to a large, kind world of socialization. Dance has many benefits for mind and body. While, it can be scary to start something new, this is about growth and development. Everyone there is starting too. You don’t need a partner to dance. This is a great skill to develop that you can literally use anywhere in the world.
So, take some time to research one or both suggestions. If we want to address loneliness, we do need to step outside of our comfort zone. The best part is either active has many benefits for the uncomfortable suffering you may endure. Good luck
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