April 2nd 2019

Posted on April 2, 2019

April 2nd 2019

 How did you do on completing your lists from April 1st blog?

Are you feeling frustrated that you are alone? Does it seem that even when you do awesome stuff you have a hard time taking in all the joy it brings because you are alone? Does being alone seem to discount your experiences in life?

If this is true for you, you are not, unfortunately alone. Many of my clients feel this way. They feel that life is “less than“ because they are lone. That things and activities that are good in their life don’t count because they don’t have a romantic partner to share it with.

If you feel the same way, one thing to reconsider is this notion, that life isn’t as precious or valuable if you don’t have someone to share it with. Now this is not to say you don’t want someone to share life with, this is very nice. However, if you put down, diminish or discount all the wonderful things or experiences BECAUSE you don’t have someone to share them with, you are living a smaller less amazing life than you could. This is very sad.

I often see many of my clients delaying or putting off things they could do because they don’t feel they can do them on their own. They put off going out to a new restaurant because they feel embarrassed to be alone. They don’t go to concert or a movie because they are alone. They may even avoid planning and taking a trip to a longed for destination because they feel that they can’t be alone.

Do you do any of these things? I really want to challenge you on this. I just completed an other solo trip using Grasshopper Adventures for a bicycling trip in Vietnam. I booked as solo person. I went and there were 13 other riders. I ended meeting some wonderful people and have the potential to make friends in all parts of the globe. We were united by a common goal of cycling, nature and adventure. This is a great foundation. I want to strongly push you to reconsider what you can do if you are alone.

Make a list of things you would love to do. Write down even if it is something you think you would need to do with someone else. Then really challenge yourself to do 2-3 or even more of those things by yourself.

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