August 13th 2019

Posted on August 12, 2019

August 13th 2019

Hello! How are you doing? It’s been quite a while since my last post.

Summer has been a busy period for me. How about you? I had a full summer, as I’m sure many of you did too, with both work, holiday and catching up with family and friends.

If you are struggling with feelings of loneliness and/or actual loneliness, coming off a holiday can sometimes produce a deep dark feelings or even an emotional crisis. Did this happen to you?

Why does this happen?

For people struggling with loneliness, you may not have learned how to process and store the good feelings we get from holiday. It can also provide a stark contrast to your daily life. On a holiday, you may have planned many activities, so you are busy. You don’t have time to feel lonely. You may get many points of contact with people during your holiday. Then, upon returning to your home, which can be a stark contrast to your holiday, it can feel even worse.

One purpose of a holiday is to recharge us as well as give us positive experiences that we can fill up on and draw upon when we are back to our regular life. Think about how you might do that.

Can you take time to write down your wonderful experiences that you had so, like a novel, when you are a bit down you can read about them later, to help you change your mood?

You can create a memento of tickets, stories and photos that you can place in your house to reflect upon each time you look at it.

Did you make some acquaintances on your trip? Why not reach out to that person(s) to check in on them, share stories. You may think that they don’t live in your city, so no point to contact them. But this is how we build different type of friendships. You can slowly build a relationship with a holiday friend and random check in on them. The world is very global now and you never know when your paths may cross again.

The most important thing is to try to figure out a way you can tap into the good feelings and memories you created on your holiday. Learning how to do this can manage that negative drop you may feel after returning from holiday.