June 14th 2019

Posted on June 14, 2019

June 14th 2019

How do you feel about yourself when you look in the mirror? Do you like what you see? Do your outsides and insides match? What if you feel bad on the inside and it shows on the outside?

One of the things I notice is that many times people who are lonely or do not feel good about themselves it is reflected in their grooming and personal hygiene. Maybe you grew up in a family and you were not told how pretty you were, or handsome you were.

In fact, when you think about yourself, can you picture how you look in your minds eye? Do have a mental picture of how you look and feel? Or do you feel like you can picture how you look? I know you know who you are when you look in a mirror, but when you have create a mental image of yourself, you may lack that picture.

If that’s true for you, you can’t imagine yourself or how you look, that is often from a lack of positive parental feedback. It can really impact yourself esteem or make you unaware of how you look to others or that others even see you.

In past blogs, I spoke about doing up your home to make it a warm and cozy place to receive. The other thing you need to do is take care of yourself. Many people who feel lonely will not necessarily connect to their body or the appearance. Sometimes people will know that they are told they are good looking and they will take care of themselves accordingly, but they are not connected to it. Others will not connect to it and will ill fitting clothes or clothes that do not compliment their figure (male or female). Others will not make the most of their appearance can claim they do not want to dress up or try, they want people to take them as they are in their base state. Others may take care of themselves and neglect their physical health. They don’t see a doctor for a checkup or visit the dentist for teeth cleaning and regular check. I find many women have never had a gynie exam.

Do you fall into any of those categories? Do you claim its because you don’t have the money or time? The most important investment you can make is in yourself. If you haven’t been taking care of yourself, its time to start doing that. Whether or not we like it, the reality is how we present ourselves to the worlds affects who approaches and how the world perceives. Sometimes you have to fake until you make it. You need to start loving and caring for yourself.

Make a list and take care of yourself:

  1. Doctor appointment for any problems you’ve been neglecting
  2. Getting your eyes check
  3. Getting your teeth cleaned and checked
  4. For women, schedule your gyno check up
  5. For older men get your colon and prostate checked
  6. Women, get a proper bra fitting. Nothing is better than having a correctly fitted bra. Everyone should have this done at least once in their life
  7. Men and women, see someone to help you get your clothes and fitted and adjusted. Feeling good in what you wear is amazing.
  8. Women, curious about make-up, even a natural look, go make an appointment at Sephora for a make-over
  9. Need help with your diet? Consult a nutritionist
  10. Want to start exercising but a gym scares you? Schedule an appointment with a trainer, even just a few if your budget is tighter
  11. Curious about improving your mental health or relationship, schedule an initial therapy consultation

Loving yourself means taking care of yourself! Have a good weekend