September 8th 2019

How is the 3rd quarter of the year going for you?

It is a busy time of the year for me. I’ve been working for the past year on developing intensive therapy retreats in Singapore, Taiwan, Thailand and of course Croatia.

One of the things all people need are structured time away to connect to themselves. When was the last time you slowed down enough to connect to your thoughts and feelings? Life is 24×7 right now with technology and FOMA culture (fear of missing out).

One of the reasons I designed the intensive therapy retreats is to facilitate people being able to disconnect for a period to really focus on themselves. I see people rushing between the busy tasks of their lives. Technology while useful often disconnects us from ourselves as well as the people we love.

Since this blog is about addressing loneliness, technology can often makes us feel more lonely than connected. I see people constantly online looking at Facebook or instagram, comparing their lives to others. They end up imagining those people having all these great experiences and lives.

The negative comparison based on an imagined feeling is part of what is making you feel worse. You imagine, again emphasis on imagine, that people have these amazing feelings and lives. The important point here is that it is an imagination, not reality. You are making yoursel feel worse by imagining how good their lives are. You are editing out any reality. If you think someone is so happy, of course it will make you feel like you aren’t living up and will feel worse.

My challenge to you is to stop doing this behavior. Stop comparing yourself. And most importantly stop imagining people have perfect lives. This is not realistic nor exists.

Ground things in reality. People have challenging lives and they get through challenges. We have happy times and sad times and difficult times.

Connect to reality, so get off these apps and start connecting to the real world